Men, on the other hand, have been pressured to take center stage, challenging others and boasting about what they’re good at.
This paper will evaluate the differences between genders in communication.
Part of the study consists in showing that those differences are due to the differences between men and women of course, but that they are also very dependent on the environment into which the conversation takes place.
Without such understanding, we are doomed to blame others or ourselves-or the relationship- for the otherwise mystifying and damaging effects of our contrasting conversational styles.
Pretending that women and men are the same hurts women, because the ways they are treated are based on the norms for men, and are nonplussed when their words don’t work as they expected, or even spark resentment and anger.
In the same sense, men want to achieve intimacy and avoid isolation as well, but this is not as important to them (Tannen, 1992).
According to Tannen, men are traditionally looking for recognition and social domination; they see the world as a battlefield on which each win allows you to get a higher social status.
Thirdly, gender communication can be problematic (Ivy and Backlund, 1994).
Communication in all forms can be problematic, but when gender is added the communication process, the complexity is expanded because now there is more than one way of looking at or talking about something.
Many cross-gender communication studies only examine verbal communication between a man and a woman, disregarding the environment and therefore fail to completely isolate the interlocutors.
An interlocutor is one who takes part in a conversation.